At a young age, we all learn the golden rule: treat others the way you wish to be treated. It’s an essential life tenet that ensures we have a harmonious relationship with people as much as possible.
Yet, some grow into adulthood without taking this fundamental principle to heart. This woman seems to be an example of this. After callously and sneakily turning her daughter-in-law’s home upside down, she ran amok after receiving the exact same treatment.
Of course, people on the internet lauded the daughter-in-law’s actions, and you will see why as you read through.
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The conflict started with her daughter-in-law
Worse, the entitled woman appeared oblivious about what she had done wrong
Knowing who she was dealing with, the daughter-in-law began devising a plan
She successfully exacted revenge without her husband knowing
As she expected, her mother-in-law was furious
However, she does not regret her actions at all
Overly critical and controlling mothers-in-law may feel judged, leading them to act the way they do
Reading the story, it appears as if the mother-in-law rearranged the woman’s furniture for no particular reason. But according to licensed counselor Chana Johnson, there are different underlying reasons.
“If the daughter-in-law is making choices that are different from the choices she made, mothers-in-law can feel judged,” Johnson explained to We. “Like the daughter-in-law is subtly implying that the way she did things was wrong, and that can cause friction.”
Johnson added that a mother-in-law with a strong, overbearing personality may be more controlling, especially if the daughter-in-law fails to set boundaries immediately.
This is what appears to have happened in the story, as the author mentioned that her MIL had been interfering in their relationship for many years.
On the topic of establishing boundaries, Johnson mentioned one key component: consistency. Apart from setting them at the start, maintaining those boundaries is just as important.
“It doesn’t work when the husband/son undermines the effort by going back on what they’ve decided. If you agree to no longer tell (MIL) your plans because she’s controlling, he can’t go behind your back to tell her what you’re doing,” Johnson said.
However, the spouse also plays a major role in such scenarios when dealing with his mother. As psychotherapist Marc Zola explains, husbands must make their wives the priority, not their mothers.
“If the MIL is highly anxious or struggling with adapting to the new stage of life, this will reinforce the power imbalance (you can’t be neutral on a moving train),” he said. “It’s best to support your partner first and foremost.”
In the story, it’s not enough for the husband to simply agree that his mother is getting old and grumpy. He must be the one setting these boundaries more than his wife to avoid similar conflicts in the future.
As for the woman, giving her MIL a taste of her own medicine may have been harsh. However, given the situation, it may have been the only way to effectively get her point across.
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