There’s no shortage of ways neighbors can drive you up the wall—blocking your driveway, throwing all-night ragers, or mowing the lawn at the crack of dawn on a Sunday, to name a few. But planting a few flowers? That hardly seems worth getting upset over.
One woman, however, took issue with a Redditor’s harmless tulips and daisies, insisting they violated HOA rules and demanding he remove them. Frustrated, he figured it was best to go along with her complaint. Only, his solution was far more creative than she was expecting.
The man’s neighbor took issue with the harmless flowers planted in his yard, demanding he remove them
He went along with her complaint but did so in a brilliantly malicious way
Most Americans prefer neighborhoods without an HOA
For an organization designed to promote community well-being, homeowners’ associations (HOAs) have a reputation that falls short of expectations. In fact, the internet is teeming with heated discussions and threads expressing frustration or outright disdain for them. It’s safe to say: HOAs don’t have the best look.
According to a YouGov survey, about 1 in 5 Americans currently live in an HOA-governed community. However, nearly half of the respondents believe HOAs negatively impact the neighborhoods they oversee, and 61% would prefer to live in a community without one.
Much of this dissatisfaction comes from overregulation. Among those dissatisfied with their HOA, 72% cite overly restrictive rules as the main concern. Many people oppose regulations on yard signs, fences, landscaping, pet ownership, exterior paint colors, home renovations, and holiday decorations. That said, some rules do garner appreciation, such as those addressing noise levels (64%), trash and recycling bins (50%), and parking (46%).
Unfortunately, if you encounter problems with an HOA, your options for recourse are limited—unless you get creative and spiteful, as OP did.
Michael Pollack, a professor at Cardozo Law School, explains that states and courts generally take a hands-off approach when dealing with HOAs. “Most states have some statute on the books that says something about the circumstances under which a court should not enforce a particular HOA rule,” Pollack told Vox. “But usually, those statutes are written to say something like a court should not enforce a restriction or rule if it is totally arbitrary or against public policy, which is a very narrow set of things. It’s almost unheard of for a court to intervene in the day-to-day.”
“Courts tend to take the view of, ‘If you don’t like it, you can leave, or you can work within the community to change things, exercise your voice,’” he added. But dealing with an HOA or becoming involved in its governance can be emotionally draining, and moving is often too expensive to be a viable solution. This leaves many people stuck, forced to live in communities where they feel frustrated by excessive rules.
A reliable way to protect yourself is to thoroughly research the HOA’s rules and regulations before moving into or purchasing a home. Keep in mind, many sellers avoid disclosing too much about their HOA, fearing it could scare off buyers. Staying diligent and insistent during the process matters—your peace of mind is worth protecting.
Another important aspect of this story involves etiquette. Did OP handle the situation appropriately, or could it have been managed better? To get a professional perspective, We reached out to etiquette expert Courtney Opalko.
“Ultimately, this man has the right to create a garden of his liking on his own property. While better communication may have prevented the situation from escalating, he did nothing wrong by replacing his garden with native plants, as outlined in the HOA rules,” she explained.
When it comes to the plants themselves, Opalko reminded us that beauty is subjective. “A garden is a personal matter, and since this ‘chaotic garden of compliance’ brings joy to its owner while enhancing the native landscape, it may just be the best solution one could find.”
Readers found the author’s response both clever and hilarious
Some even chimed in with similar stories of dealing with bossy neighbors
